Act Like You're Divorced

I’ve walked with several men who were divorced either against their will or by their choice after years of failed attempts to fix the marriage. And what I have seen in all these newly single men is efforts to improve themselves. There might be some physical changes, weight loss or working out, but most of it is more about emotional and relational changes. 

These men are honest with themselves about their part in the divorce. They don’t take all the blame, but neither do they put all the blame on their ex. Most of them hope to be married again and are working to become someone a woman will want to be with as well as someone who can keep a marriage strong.

I talked to one man who was convinced his marriage was doomed. He’d tried to fix it and his wife would not change. He was sure it was only a matter of time before she filed. So he started to work on himself so he would be a better husband the next time around. And as he did this, it changed how his wife saw him. And because of that, she started to change! When I met them a few years later they had a great marriage.

If you started to act like you were divorced and wanted to have a better marriage the next time around, what might happen?